ScreenTimeProductions: Angry Black Women, Tired Black Man »
“And that’s why they called you ‘bitch’, I betcha!” — Tupac Shakur
Thanks to a fellow blogger from 99 Monkeys. Mpecable ran across this quick film (you’ll need Quicktime on Screen Time Productions.
Let me comment on this. ahem. Amen! I get worn out by women who be on that same ol’ nonsense. Black men who date white women aren’t weak! And those who believe contrary are racist. I used to do my ranting about this very subject. It isn’t about men not being able to handle strong women, it’s about peace of mind. Not getting a piece of mind everytime there’s something that the woman doesn’t agree with. I mean damn, homegirl was pathetically trying to rationalize why 3 of them don’t have a man and one is dating a white man. And she in her own way blames black men for that. I’m saying she should shut the hell up in the first place. Nobody asked her jack, dude wanted to get his kid and bail. Not enter an inquisition. I know it’s a film. But it’s real. Watch the video. I heard that it was old. But it’s new to me. I’m moving into hate mode now so I’m gonna stop. Maybe I’m biased because I’m a black man. I’m looking for a snowbunny right now! From the film:
This house you live in, I bought. And all of the furniture in it. Let’s talk about the car and the alimony check. You don’t remember the last time you worked. And you and your angry little crew want to call me a weak black man? Why just because I like to come back home to a peaceful house in the middle of the day instead of the drama I had with you for 4 years? So you feel a black man’s weak because he doesn’t feel like fighting every single night? If this woman here, black, white or any other color can bring some balance to my life, I really don’t care what you or any of your angry crew are saying. Let me set the record straight. I am not a weak black man. I am a tired black man. Tired of dealing with angry black women like you, and you. Now where’s my daughter.
Kwestion
On Apr 22, 2006 | Respond
I say this as a black male:
Lets not pretend black men are going around buying houses and cars for black women. Black men who exclusively date white woman do so because they want a submissive woman who conforms to patriarichal thinking. They want to be the head of the relationship instead of an equal partner. If black women are soo difficult, then why are so many white men into them?
Zilla
On Apr 22, 2006 | Respond
Friend, that’s bs.
Sleaze
On Apr 23, 2006 | Respond
WHITE WOMEN WANT THE POLE!!!! black guys jus want sum fucking time to kick back it dont really matter who its with
thk
On Apr 26, 2006 | Respond
People date different people for different reasons. I think both black men and black women are tired of the drama that each bring to the relationship. We need to work on our individual issues before getting with anyone else. It’s not a race issue because black men and women get along well enough to try a relationship so that’s easy. We got to learn to work together when the times are difficult. It’s not race, it’s compabaility.
thk
Dave Thomas III
On Apr 26, 2006 | Respond
I hear what you’re saying. We have pressure outside of our race to perform at higher standards than everybody else on the planet, and those pressures are transmitted into our own relationships. Then there’s the whole thing about what we expect of each other in a relationship, and that get’s even more difficult to handle when some of those expectations are based upon what the rest of the world says a succesful couple should be, and what they should have, realist or not. It’s crazy. With the young black woman I’m dating now, I prefer to be highly progressive in terms of going after what we want out of life, but yet try hard to keep the relationship enviroment simple and drama free. I think, so far, so good. We shall see……
Mallz
On Apr 26, 2006 | Respond
black men want white women cause that shit is still taboo…purrid point blank
Lady Sweet
On Apr 27, 2006 | Respond
As a black woman it is sad to think that we are raising men that do not understand our struggle. I beleive that no one should have to have drama day after day and your home should be a place of peace. But the story is unbeliveable. He doing everything that I would want a man to do and all she doing is complaining. Yeah Right!! Please remember this while you black men that are soooo unhappy with the black women of the world. If there is no us, then there can not be no you.
Shawna
On Apr 28, 2006 | Respond
Well said Lady Sweet.
Unfortunately too many of our people are falling for this sham of a movie.It is nothing more than attack on Black women, Black men, and Black Love in general.It is another tool being used to drive a wedge in between the sexes.
The truth is, we are all we have.The Black woman and the Black man need each other and no other can replace either of them.
Anyone who thinks they will find a drama free life with a white man or woman is sorely mistaken.If this were true white people in general would not be divorcing each other in droves.
Think people.Most of all I ask Black men to think and look at the history of this country.The white woman is your death.She is the easiest way by which the white man finds to either kill or lock you up.
Zilla
On Apr 28, 2006 | Respond
Damn that was borderline racist too.
There are some genuine Crackaz out there (in any race) but I refuse to put it all on the white man. And I couldn’t call this film a sham when it ACTUALLY happens daily.
Quasean
On Apr 29, 2006 | Respond
What up Brothas? Sistas? Cousins?
I’m a very educated, well paid, corporate brotha from Chicago. Needless to say, I love my sistas to death. I’ve had a few very serious, long-term relationships with sistas (black & Latina). My reality is, this clip hits home! I just got out of a 7yr. relationship with a sista. Everything was cool at first (during college), but once I got out of school and started focusing on my career, I wanted different things. See, it was okay (at first) to have a few arguments, disagreements. Hell, it only made the make-up sex that much better. But that was during the time I was going to class and coming home, not going to work and coming home. We moved in together right after I got out of grad. school, and things were going fine. We would have serious conversations about her keeping her girlfriends in our business. I mean, they knew shit about our relationship even before I did. There were times I had to play mind-games with her friends to get information regarding how she was feeling, where her had was at, what she was saying. I hated that shit! How are you supposed to be in a relationship with me, yet communicate moreso with the dumb broad who can’t keep a man!?
At any rate, time went by and the shit got worst. Not only was she going to her “girls” before she would come to me about a topic, but it got to the point where (during an argument) she would damn-near qoute something I heard her girlfriends say to her about me! This shit was too much.
Before I contiunue, let me give you a bit of history on her girlfriends… well this one in particular. This babe is smart, grad degree (dumb-ass major), but still, at least she got one. She’s fine as all hell. I mean, she could make a nigga stop in his tracks! Drawback, she’s a slut! Plain and simple. She ran throu 8 of the 12 niggas from the same line in my fraternity. Not to mention all the random dicks you’d find floating around her house from time to time. She’s in love with a 3x felon with 4 kids. Dude has been locked-up since her freshman year (off and on). Anyhow, she don’t know the first thing about keeping a man. Fucking him? Yes. Keeping him? Hell no! And for that reason, her ass is walking around to this day with herpes. But she got all the shit in the world to say about how a woman should treat her man.
Back to the story:
I used to tell my girl how I felt about her friend. She would even agree that “Ms. Pretty” was a slut, and had the slightest idea what to do with a man after she fucked him. However, my girl would take her dumb-ass advice on how and what to do with me. Well, it got to the point were I thought my girl was cheating. Comes to find out, she was. She would dip to her girlfriend’s house and, of course, Ms. Pretty would have random dicks just laying around. When I asked my girl why she did it, guess what she told me? “I thought it’ll make you jelous, to make you know that you’re not the only man that I can get.” What the fuck!?!?!? She must have been sipping on some trick-juice to say some ill shit like that. After that, she had the nerve to say how sorry she was and it was mostly Ms. Pretty in her ear all night, spitting her “be-a-hoe-like-me game”
To make a long story short, after about a two-week break-up we got back together. During the time that followed, she must have felt really vunerable because everytime I went out she would accuse me of fucking around. She thought I was on some get-back shit! I wasn’t. Hell, I’m a man. I did that shit in undergrad.
So now, the dissagreements turned into arguments, arguments into fuck-you’s, fuck-you’s into this babe hitting me and throwing beer on me. Okay, that was the last straw for me! I know how that game ends - with me doing 6 to 10 for battery. IT AIN’T GON’ HAPPEN! I grabbed my shit that same day and dipped. It’s been about 4 1/2 weeks, and I haven’t seen or spoken to her since.
My reality? It was the fact that my woman was dumb enuf to let this looser influence her decisions. (But she had the nerve to call me weak.) She couldn’t see that Ms. Pretty wanted her to be without a man, just as she was, so she could be bitter, angry, and loveless too. Well, it worked!
Now I’m seeing a Latina woman. Nothing serious, just dated a few times.
I have received a few e-mails from my ex. (I didn’t reply). When she wrote, she told me that I wasn’t strong enuf to take on a black woman so I had to go out there and find myself a white woman to run-over. (I admit, the woman I’m seeing now does look white- she’s actually German and Mexican). But to me, that shit don’t matter, I’m stress free - and that’s the bottom line!
Cool Phat
On May 3, 2006 | Respond
I am an educated black man. I just recieved my bachelor degree. Anyway, I do not choose to date people by the color of their skin but by the person they are. I have noticed attitude differences between different races./ethnicities. I know not all black women are this way but I noticed that a lot of black women complained when they don’t have something and when they get it they still complain. I am a good man. I am respectful, honest, trustworthy, romantic, caring and I can keep going. I am the type of guy women want as a significant other. So we get together and it is like I’m to good (if it is possible) and they break up with me for something worse. Its a cycle. Ex: A women is in a horrible relationship with a man who would hit her, mental abuse her, just don’t give a fuck about her. She becomes fed up and decides that she wants a good man (me). We get together. Everything is fine. She says that I am so good to her. I take pride in that. For some reason I don’t understand she wants to break up with me so she starts fights over little shit. Now she begans to disrespect me and she makes statements that are completely untrue. She would say something like I don’t care about her. It was me who took her to the hospital when she became ill. I was the one who gave her a shoulder cry on and words of encouragement. Sometimes y’all don’t make any sense. We break up and she is back with the same knucklehead that was kick’n her ass. That is true to with all women, but I’ve only experienced that with black women.
The film is so real. I was in a similar situation as that Haitian cat. A couple of girlfriends who I had were so negative. They wanted to argue all the time. I didn’t and still don’t know why is there so much anger all the TIME. Its like anger is built into their dna. In the city I live in that is all you see. Girls who are 5 years old roll their eyes. I tell a sister good morning and she rolls her eyes or say something in return with an attitude. I will goto work and the receptionist greets everyone with an attitude. I can keep going on. I am so fuck’n tired of that shit. It is not needed. Some of those people ask why do I date outside of my race. I actually will date someone from any race/ethnicity.
Louise Brown
On May 3, 2006 | Respond
The thing I don’t understand about a relationship is how can two peoples say they love and care for each other,and soon ass things get rough for them (they got drama on certain issues).But I’ll tell you all this from experience there shouldn’t be any sex before marriage, because you suppose to date for marriage get and understanding from each other and the things you like you two got to be compable in this way.. I’m saying this in a christian way ok. I’ve been there. Cause sometimes a man or a woman will take advantage of the other, not caring for one like they ought to and it’s wrong to do. Like this film the sister were wrong in listening to her friends,cause i feel when a woman has a man she don’t need another woman or friend telling her anything about her man cause what goes around comes around ok,womens tends not to think on thing at times, cause they let their emotions get ahead of their feeling and that leads to different feeling. We got white and black womens that fight and get very angry or volient at times so I don’t agree on it being just this black woman cause it’s not true.I think a black man can be with a whit e woman just as a black woman can marriage a white man right as long as it’s done the right way. The bible didn’t say we couldn’t marriage the oppose color, God said not to fornacate in his eyes, cause that what happen to adam and eve they start sinning and lost everything good that god gave them. WE shouldn’t commit Adultary as the lord says, It’s in his word just read it those are one of his special commandments to live by. But in the movie Erika was very wrong cause god had sent her a good man but she didn’t recieve him like she should have,so I know later own in some woman’s life she regrets not keeping the man that was good to her. Thank You and god bless you .
Louise Brown
mrslouiseb@yahoo.com
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Zilla
On May 3, 2006 | Respond
Who says what is or what’s not the proper protocol in the timeline or marriage? Let’s keep the Bible out of this because we all do not believe in the same religion (or atleast the same versions; translations).
If there isn’t supposed to be any pre-marital sex, my johnson wouldn’t grow until the honeymoon.
Sleaze
On May 4, 2006 | Respond
black women equate wealth and status to wether or not a man is good…thas why brothers look elsewhere
blakdiva
On May 8, 2006 | Respond
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wow! sleaze do you really believe that? Do you not realize that often a white woman will date you not only to piss off her family, but to prove to herself that she’s not racist. which is some B.S. white women, under the guise of love and understanding, will “take care” of a black man, because she’s expects him to do no better and be no better than he is. she is always superior to him, and if he has no job it’s ok because he’s just a f*** beast, a trophy. and sometimes even she will date you, because she does not feel worthy to date a white man. so she takes a step down. which is your black ass! Think brothers!
I’ve also noticed that black men date outside, because they are tired of us (even though we have certainly been holding our weight for this community). But black women date outside, as an alternative, because there’s so few available. What does that say to you? In spite of all we love you all desperately, but expect you to be as good as we are. And are constante punished for it with films like this. thanks, brothahz
NATURE
On May 10, 2006 | Respond
ITS FUNNY TO SEE THAT SOME WOMEN FEEL THEY HAVE THE PATENT ON BEING UNAPPRECIATED, VIOLATED AND DISRESPECTED. YES I HEAR YOU WHEN YOU SAY YOU DONT WANT TO RAISE BLACK BOYS TO DISRESPECT BLACK WOMEN…BUT WHAT ABOUT RAISING BLACK WOMEN TO RESPECT BLACK MEN. PLEASE DONT ACT LIKE ALL WOMEN ARE APPRECIATIVE OF A GOOD MAN BECAUSE THEY ARE NOT. YES THERE ARE PLENTY OF BROTHERS WHO GIVE THEIR ALL FOR THE WOMAN THEY CHOSE TO SPEND LIFE WITH, CREATE LIFE WITH HOWEVER SOMEWHERE ALONG THE LINE SHE HAS GOTTEN COMPLACENT, LISTENED TO THE NO MAN HAVING GIRLFRIENDS ONE TO MANY TIMES OR SIMPLY BECAME JEALOUS OF HIS LIFE. BEFORE ANYBODY SAYS I DONT KNOW WHAT IM TALKING ABOUT IVE BEEN A PRACTICING COUNSELOR FOR 9 YEARS NOW AND IM SPEAKING FACT. ITS SO EASY FOR WOMEN TO POINT FINGERS AND THROW STONES EVEN PLACE BLAME BUT THE HARDEST PART IS ADMITTING THAT YOU HAD FAULT IN YOUR OWN DOWNFALL OR AND YOUR TO BLAME FOR LOSE A GOOD THING AS IF MEN ARENT SUPPOSE TO GET FED UP OR TIRED.
Stable
On May 11, 2006 | Respond
I don’t remember hearing the hue and cry from black women when, “Waiting to Exhale”, painted most black men in a very negative light. Where were our strong black sistas? Why didn’t at least one of them say publically that all black men aren’t the sterotypical thugs, pimps, and wannabe gangsters? Why didn’t a sista stand up and tell the nation how hard her daddy, brother, or husband worked to create a shelter from the storm of life? Its a movie black women. Its just a slice of our reality as black Americans. And just as some of you, at the time, were waiting to exhale; Some of us are just sick and tired of your damn attitudes.
Big Nik
On May 22, 2006 | Respond
Type your comment in here Love is love. I think attitudes from both black men & women need to change. Sometimes life circumstances give people attitudes, but they must make a decision. If black women keep hearing the same thing, don’t you think you should stop and think about the comments and black men should do the same. I have dated outside my race just because I liked the person, but in the end, I still prefer my own kind. All races have drama in their lives, it is not exclusive to us! Lets just learn to respect each other. As far as “Waiting to Exhale” you could have put any race of women in that movie and trust me the result would have been the same. One woman has no luck with men, the other women will have her husband leave her for someone younger and/or more exotic, another one who is in a relationship going nowhere and one who is holding on to moment in time when she got pregnant. Trust me all races, men or women have lived that or know someone who has live it. Evverything is not always black & white. As long as the person you are with gives you respcet, love, trust and peace from the rest of the world you’ve got a fighting chance. You want a man or women with a job, as long as it’s legal and you live life the right way, again you can make it work. Stop comparing yourselves to others because you never know what is going on behind closed doors. Sisters stay strong and keep the faith in our black men and brothers, don’t put all black women in the same click and stay hard working and keep your faith.
Pearl Jr
On May 30, 2006 | Respond
This is a devil made movie that specializes in lies and deception.
The director/producer was financed by a White company that is using him to continously destroy his own people. He is the true definition of a real “Nigger”–ignorant that this serves no one Black to any benefit. It only promotes that wealthy Black men take the money and resources outside of the Black community and gladly give to back to White people.
http://www.BlackWomenNeedLoveToo.com
Zilla
On May 30, 2006 | Respond
so racist.
Gods Child
On Jun 6, 2006 | Respond
It’s nothing to do with color. Y’all need to choose better women to begin with, just like we need to choose better men. Raise your standards and you’ll find less drama. I know I’m late but I just had to say that.
mona
On Jun 15, 2006 | Respond
iam a white woman from germany and i married my husband in 84 he was in the military and still married one son thats in college ..and i was not looking for a black man he was a blind date..so you never know where you find love …
MyV ersion
On Jun 20, 2006 | Respond
I have open-mindedly read the emails of the frustrated successful and educated black men. I as well have read the complaints of the frustrated successful and educated black women. I personally am as well educated and successful. I am a black woman. I watched the clip and have read many blogs from brothers and sisters commenting on the content of the clip. I personally feel to believe that the clip is biased as well. Yet, to an extent all fiction is based on someone’s reality. Yet, I believe that this type of occurrence with the “seemingly bad individual not taking advantage of the what the good individual had to offer until it was too late” has circumstantially happened not only to men, but women as well. We have all had an individual in our life who was seemingly too good to be true, and we messed it up. That is human nature. You live and you learn. Experience is the best teacher. Yet, it does offend me as a black woman to be consistently labled as angry. We are not all angry, just as well all black men are not the proverbial dogs in heat. Yet, from my perspective I am tired of the media constantly portraying the black woman as the angry and bitter bitch. We are not all “Omarosa Manigawld Stallworth” or Cora from all those “road rule real world chanllenges”, we are not all the attitudinal bitches that are on “America’s Next Top Model” in which the show knows they are not going to pick but keep the bitchy black woman on their just for the added drama that is needed for the show to gain ratings. That is just not true. We all have things in our past that have plagued our sound judgement when it comes to relationships. 1 in 3 women have been in some form or fashion been sexually assaulted. Although that statistic is for women in general, I think it can apply to black women alone. It is hard for us to not readily look at the black man and any man for that matter as a perpetrator who is ready to reek emotional havoc. When our initial exposure to intimacy was forced prematurely. So, to the successful brothas up top dealing with the unforgiving problematic sisters he’s come across understand the sister’s plight. To Cool Phat please know that the frowns and disgruntled demeanor run so much deeper than it appears. That little girl with the attitude that you saw may have already had a horrible intimate confrontation with a man who quite possibly looked just like you and every other black man who seemingly appeared nice, but robbed her of her innocence.
As well, many black women have not had exposure to nice black men in their lives. It is true that all black men are not triffling brothas, but that does not excuse the many triffling brothas that do exist. Many black girls have not had a father present to show them that the love and kindness that a good black man has to offer does exist and they can possess it. From the beginning, the first black man they were initially exposed to in their lives were by their mothers labeled as a no good, sorry, etc. etc. This man was their absentee father. A father who came around sporadically with false hopes and left her only with broken promises. This type of bad negative socialization has plagued the hearts and minds of many black women. Not, to say that as black men you all are not plagued with problems we know you all are. That is why for so long many of us stood by you and chose not to cross over, and take up the company of our white men. To end this long entry I hope that people will look deeper than the surface when viewing this movie, and any other movie that attempts to address the issues plaguing black relationships that over time has aided in the demise of strong black families. Because whether we argee or like it we need each other. Only with each other on a unified front will this race live on.
Here is a poem that touches on what I’m trying to stress…….
The Cross-Examination:
A Reciprocation to the situation
By: Armanthia Duncan a.k.a. MyVersion
I hear your story, and equally share your plight
Now listen to my story it all began one gloomy night
This tale begins with a young, bubbly, timid little girl
So, new and unexposed to all of the world
Entirely consumed with immaturity
Soon to be robbed of her innocence unknowingly
This little girl really looked up to her mother,
And Uncle Freddie was the name of mother’s lover
He’d always come to the house late at night and leaving at dawn
Despite his sinister smile, and eerie aura she found herself drawn
To his shiny coins, corny jokes, and superficial compliments
Tugging at her pigtails and calling her pretty never was she aware of his true intents
One day he visited earlier than his normal hours
Yet, momma had left for the store, she wanted to bake a cake and was out of flour
Uncle Freddie decided he would stay around and wait
He then asked “Hey pretty girl come here there’s a game I want us to play!”
The little girl came over and sat up on Uncle Freddie’s lap
Uncle Freddie said we must first lay down and pretend we’re taking a nap
As the little girl went to the bedroom and laid down pretending to be sleep
She quickly felt Uncle Freddie throw his clothing down across her feet
The tickling sensation forced the little girl to open her eyes
Only to be exposed to a horrible surprise
Uncle Freddie stood over her completely in the nude
With a low scary voice informing her “You will now do what your momma wouldn’t do”
She screamed and hollered noone would come to her rescue
See, the father that was supposed to be her protector left her mother when she was only two
Prematurely exposed to human sexuality
Forced this little girl into a lifestyle of homosexuality
Even with much debate, there was no other way to relate, elucidate, or explicate her sinful fate
So, again my brother I understand your demise
Yet, look at the world through this young girl’s eyes
And know that this has affected 1 out of every 3
Little girls trapped in woman’s bodies walking the streets
See, this lifestyle the little girl was drafted not enlisted
And unfortunately her images of men will forever be twisted.
Snoflake
On Jul 18, 2006 | Respond
Love is color blind. I thank god everyday for that.
BOOGYMAN2006
On Oct 23, 2006 | Respond
Let’s first establish a couple of truths.
1. Not all black men are dogs, useless runaways, or undereducated lazy slouches.
2. Not all black women are nasty, angry b**ches.
That being said, I must ask this question too all black women. When will just one of you be woman enough to admit that if MILLIONS of black men are saying the exact same thing that there’s gotta be SOME truth to it?
Hypothetical example: If any of you were with me in a relationship and we were living together, and as I was watching some sort of sporting event, you walked across my view and I asked you “why did you just walk in front of the television?” And you respond, “I was just going to the closet”, and I come back with “No, you did that just to interrupt my enjoyment of what I am watching.” At this point I would look like an idiot of epic proportions. How in the world can I tell you why you did something?
Now for all black women who agree with me on that point…
How is it that when many of you ask why many of us involve ourselves with white, asian, or any other women beside our own, and we OPENLY TELL YOU the reason, be it drama, nasty attitudes, or any other reason, you refuse to believe it and make up this thing about black men not being able to “handle your strength” and preferring a woman of a different race because we can walk over them? I’n this situation, you are committing the same mistake that I did in my “walking in front of the TV” example. 1. You are trying to tell us why we made certain choices, when we already told you why. 2. This excuse of us not being able to handle your strength and preferring a weaker woman gets you off the hook for taking any responsibility for the problems in your relationships.
I think it is important to point out here that being respectful to a black man does not make you weak, or a doormat. It makes you a woman that is proud of the man in your life. I would caution you to be wary of girlfriends that tear your man down constantly. I would wager that if any of you recall a time when your girlfriends might have done so, they themselves were bitter, angry, and most importantly, jealous of your happiness with the relationship you have with your black man. What many of you don’t realize is that same gilrfriend would try to take your man from you in a heartbeat (which is probably why she tries to poison your relationship, think about that for a minute).
Also, most black men do not want a relationship with a weak woman, regardless of their color. To want a weak woman is to want a woman that can be controlled by fear. I for one would not want a relationship based on fear, but one based on respect.
I am married to a beautiful black woman who is Jamaican/Nigerian. Like all married couples, we have our moments when we don’t see eye to eye, but although she is professional, educated, and certainly strong, I’m not offended or threatened by that.
But if she were to suddenly turn into a woman that is giving me the fifth degree about everything, everyday, plain and simple, I’m out the door. If I can’t find peace of mind with you, I’ll find it elsewhere. No man, no matter where he comes from, wants to come home to drama. ur homes should be our refuge from the stresses of the street, not a continuation of them. So then, if my home is just as stressful as the street, then black women, riddle me this, why should I come home?
Finally for any women who are bible readers, I offer this last point. There is a scripture that defines a wicked woman as a thorn in her husband’s side, but a good wife is like a crown upon his head.
noidrequired
On Jan 2, 2007 | Respond
I am an adult black female. Here is my opinion on why black men date outside their race. 1. consiciously and subconscioulsy the white woman is the ideal symbol of beauty. 2. black men feel equal to white men when they date a white woman. 3. in a lot of places it is still taboo to be a interacial couple. 4. women of other races are more submissive. 5. black men dont have to appear to be so strong and hard when they are with a woman of another race. Now I believe that only one percent of black men who date outside their race do it because they just happend to fall in love with that person. Black men will never admit to these things because they are too ashamed to say it. Now if you are a black male and you say you dated a “sister” and you did everything right but all she did was complain then you were right to leave her crazy azz. But dont put that on all sisters. That was you making a bad choice and her being ignorant. You can find women like that in every race. And for the record i have plenty of white friends and none of them is looking for a broke brother. So dont call us gold diggers cause white women feel the same way. And I know plenty of black men whose white wives dont work at all. The black man is busting his butt while she stays home all day. And these same men would not accept that from a sister. I know a lot of scandalous white women so brothers quit acting like all white women are gold. There is good and bad in every race. And if you keep attracting “worthless” women you need to ask yourself what is it about you that keeps attracting this type of woman. And vice versa for you females out there. I know I have faults and I am working on them. Black men you have faults too. There was a time when i wore a low/medium afro and brothers looked at me like they were ashamed of me. I even had a few tell me to my face that i needed to put some perm on my shyt. Can you imagine how that made me feel coming from men of my own race. I know its hard to be a black man in america but think about how hard it is to be a black woman. At least you can be yourselves. A black woman to be accepted usually has to straighten and lighten her hair. Needs to have a slim nose and body. And it helps to have lighter skin. But a chocolate man is considered sexy all day. Brothers maybe we do have a little attitude maybe we do have chips on our shoulders but I can tell you the truth,,when me and my girlfriends get together and “dish” we all agree that nothing is better than a strong black man who is proud of his race, who knows his history, and who keeps it real.
Dr.T
On Feb 27, 2007 | Respond
To Noidrequired.. You stated that us Black men who made “bad” choices complain about dating these disagreeable azz black women than what the “hell” do you call it when black women make “Bad” choices in dating these “no-good” Blackmen as you stated and than after they made these “Bad” decisions in Blackmen starts to “Bitch and Complain” about the shortage of “Good Blackmen”?? You also stated about Black men “attracting worthless” women needs to check themselves than What the “Hell” do you call it when you black women attract these damn “thugs,badboys and gangsters type niggas?? You black women are so damn “hyocritical” in talking shit about Black men that you all need to check yourselves 1st and foremost instead of having these damn “war councils” that you black women are known to have at times and in closing my “sista” there are Black Men who do like sistas that wear their hair “Naturally” but even these type of black women still will give an brotha “Shit” because he’s not some kind of “baller”,don’t make an “high salary” or she wants an cat to “kiss her azz”(like being an yes man)!!!! Why is it that you black women won’t give whiteboys as much shit as you give us?? I’ll await your answer!!! Peace. Dr.T
Dr.T
On Feb 27, 2007 | Respond
To myversion..Where the hell do you get those stats that 1 in 3 have been sexually assualted?? So I guess Black Men don’t go thru shit like this as well?? Well let me give you an stat to ponder ready: women in amerikkka(including you black women) committs just as much spouse abuse(mayby more) than men as well as “murder” of their own children!!(true fact)research it.Another thing is there are “Tons” of nice brothas but the sad part about that is us “Nice” brothas are nice to you all black women but you all thinks it’s an sign of “Weakness”(you know thats true!!!)but you know what myversion “Most” of us Black men have “Not” cross over to white women even though the insecurity in you black women “Don’t or won’t” ever see that.So that means that A “Lot” of brothas still take “shit’ from you all!!! So hypocritical of the amerikkkan black women!!! Peace.
Sweetness
On Jun 25, 2007 | Respond
Dr.T and MyVersion: Both of you make valid points in reqards to the destructive behavior of the “Black Relationship”. Our culture was taught very early on, on hating each other and this was never properly corrected. We have to began to reverse the incorrect way that we look at each other and stop disrespect one another. But before we can began to even do that, we must first stop the madness that is within our individual selves. From that point we must began to respect/remember where we came from and start loving who we are now. This is the only way that we can began to come together in any type of harmonic situation.
jamaica
On Jul 3, 2007 | Respond
You sound like you might be a wonderul person.Where do you live?
Sweetness
On Jul 5, 2007 | Respond
I live in the crazy city of Newark NJ. I am in the process of relocating to a more calmer and serene environment.
MyV ersion
On Aug 29, 2007 | Respond
To Dr. T. I deeply apologize that you have seemingly been exposed to women who do not acknowledge, and appreciate nice guys. It is not true for us all. Like I said at the end of my entry “Whether we agree or like it we need each other.” I love all my black men and remain loyal from now til forever. I will never desert you period no matter what I have been exposed to I am educated enough to know that one is not representive of all. As for the statistics on sexually assaulted women you look up pretty much any website that gives support to women suffering from this, and you will see the statistics. And remember I said sexually assaulted that can be defined as many things.
Datruth
On Sep 3, 2007 | Respond
all black sistas are rude ghetto baby mamas with no home training just the way of life. they choose thugs..these thugs whoop there A** cheat on them with other broads, dont care about them and these sistas keep running back to them. by the time the sista realizes its time to get out the relationship and go find a good brotha, the good brotha is out with a white woman because he has been rejected by the nasty attitude sista who only likes thugs. which leads to black woman saying “oh theres not enough good man out there”..when its really the black womans problems. all of yall like thugs. I must of dated countless of black woman and all of yall are the same. nagging nasty attitudes etc. its very hard to find a good sista i’m to the point now that i only date puertorican girls. and occansionally i’ll mess with some white girls. and some sistas who act white. but a hood sista count me out!..and another thing it seems like the successful famous black men also date woman of other races. the poor black men dates the the black sistas so why are you black sistas mad at the successful brothas dating white woman??..thugs usually arent going to date white woman because it’s nothing to relate to rather a successful black man has things in common with a successful white woman.
Sweetness
On Sep 4, 2007 | Respond
Datruth? More like DaDummy!
First, you are very disrespectful. It is uneducated, poor-minded, foolish, men like you that are looking for excuses to date outside of your race. So what you weak-minded men (of all races) do is you pick on the women that have issues and dramatize them to the point of intense anger and then us the downfall of those relationships as an excuse to go elsewhere. Truth be told, there are just as many black men with major issues as there are black women. It is just that society, with the help of fools like you, publicizes the issues of the black woman more than the black man. Oh, and by the way…Is your mother a black woman? If so, then I suppose she is also a “Rude Ghetto Baby Mama with no Home Training” according to you.
MyV ersion
On Sep 4, 2007 | Respond
Well Said Sweetness! Well Said!
Sweetness
On Sep 5, 2007 | Respond
Somebody had to put him in his place. I just hope an educated, self-respecting man steps up and follows up with a sane comment to his (datruth’s) garbage.
La'Tsha
On Jan 16, 2008 | Respond
My problem in relationships with a black man is, they are such a big liar. They try to be more then what they are just to get a woman. They are not trying to be true to themselve, and their significant other. When we get all into each other and everything starts
to get real comfortable, the truth starts to come out about who they really are. Time is too valuable black man. If you just be honest with me from the start there wouldn’t be any problems. Just by being honest, It will let my decision to be(if I want to be with you, or not)more easier and time consuming.